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Who is a woman? (understanding the nature of women)

 The bible said that in the beginning God created man and having seen that all he did was fine he made man to sleep and removed one of his ribs to create a woman. From this view point we can deduce that God created a woman to be by the side of the man not above neither to be under him. After creation man was lonely and needed a help therefore the need for a woman. If a woman was created to help a man we can also theorise that a woman is stronger than a man in some aspects. Suffice it to say that no one seeks help from a weaker being. Where and how is a woman stronger than a man, since man is physically stronger than the woman? The answer is in the indispensability of the woman. The tale that follows will help us reach a decision.

When the creator finished creating man he realised that he had used up all the physical elements and nothing was left to create a woman. He therefore took the roundness of a moon and the agility of the clinging vine. The trembling of the grass, the slenderness of a reed and the beauty of blossoming flowers. The lightness of leaves and the cheerfulness of the rays of sunshine. The tears of the clouds and the instability of the wind. The fearfulness of a rabbit and the vanity of peacock, the softness of a bird’s breast and the hardness of a diamond. The sweetness of honey and the cruelty of a tiger, the heat of a burning fire and the chilliness of snow, the chatter of a magpie and the song of a nightingale. The deceitfulness of a crane and the faithfulness of a mother lion. Mixing all these yielding elements the creator created a woman and gave her to a man.

After a week the man came back and said to the creator this thing you have given me makes me unhappy. She talks without seizing and demands continuous attention. She cries about every little thing and I have no rest. I have come to give her back. The creator said OK and took her back. Suddenly after a week the man came back to the creator and said look my life is so empty since I gave her back to you. I always think of how she laughed and danced. How she looked at me from the corner of her eyes. She was so beautiful to look at and so soft to touch, I so much liked to hear her laugh please give her back to me and the creator said Ok you can have her back. After three days the man came back and said to the creature, after all my experience I have come to the conclusion that she causes me more trouble than pleasure. Please take her back I can’t live with her. The creator roared I have heard enough of your murmuring go and live to the best of your ability. But the man replied but I can’t live with her and the creator answered you can’t live without her either and continued his work. The man said in desperation I can’t live with her and I can’t live without her. That’s a woman. You can’t like her and you can’t live without her.

This little tale helps us in understanding a woman, her nature and aspiration, the does and the don’ts of her existence, her inexperience and wisdom, her charming and irritation, her loving nature and distastefulness, her caring and rejection, her domineering and carefree attitude, her jealousy and compassion, her possessiveness and generosity, her faithfulness and infidelity, her determination and weakness, her deep longing and hostility. A woman is loving but destructive, a woman is complex but simple. Evidently the complexity of the elements put together for the creation of a woman makes them an interesting creature to study. In my observation of a woman I have come to understand that a woman could be everything and at the same time nothing and that makes them an interesting case study. Therefore in the complex nature of their being one has to identify what attracts him to a particular woman and hold onto that while trying to understand other elements of her being. A woman want to be adored, appreciated, respected, wanted, loved, cared for, honoured, accepted. When this happens a woman is everything on the contrary a woman is nothing. The discovery of the deep cauldron in every woman needs patience, experience and the understanding of their nature. That’s why women reach orgasm with some men and not with others. A woman can love a man so dearly today and hate the same man so passionately the next day. It is the same gravity with which they love that the hate. 

The problem is that today women want every thing without giving anything in reward unlike the women of yesterday. The women of yesterday were more reserved and exclusive. They knew the meaning of the word virtue and went after it. The understood the position of the women in the family and the society. The women of today feel that the women of yesterday were manhandled persecuted and bullied, archaic, outdated primitive and obedient to a fault. The women of today are therefore demanding for liberalization when they are not under bondage. Emancipation when they are not marginalization, freedom without being imprisoned, liberation but they are not oppressed. The problem is that of Phych because the women are living under an inexistent fear of domination and marginalization. They live in a constant state of insatiability. Unfortunately women started leading social charade where one is not needed because of their abject rejection of their role in society.

Nowadays you hear, what a man can do a woman can do even better. Yet I don’t know of a woman miner. The world is unnecessarily engaged in a role conflict. Conflict comes with stress. The consequences are there for all to see; divorce, late marriage, death, child abandonment, reduction in population (some races are moving towards extinction) etc. Culture refers to a system of shared meaning held by members that distinguish that society, from other societies. Going further this system of shared meaning could be, on closer examination a set of key characteristics that the society values. Put another way culture could simply mean the way we do things here. If we hold this definition to be true it is therefore evident that culture will distinguish an African woman from European, American and vice versa. Problem arises because people hold certain culture to be superior to their own. That’s why an African woman will wear trouser instead of tying wrapper or probably use a bleaching cream to look lighter. Just consider the campaign about the subjection of the Moslem women, yet the Moslem women are not complaining. All these developments that have influenced the nature of woman have taken the study to a different dimension. As well, it is a demonstration of the complex elements that makeup a woman. Every woman has to be learned and each makes an interesting case study.

Good time.

Paul

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This killing in the name of God (The destruction of the fundaments of Nigerian nation)

It is a generally accepted concept that in the beginning God created man and gave him dominion over every living thing. It is still unknown to mankind why God gave him dominion over other beings, given that even man is an animal, neither can we speculate that God is ignorant of the overzealous nature of man. What we do know which is undisputable is that man has dominion over all other being/animal. Also it is an acceptable doctrine that God is the alpha and omega even those that do not believe in God accepts that their exists a supreme being. I have tried enough to understand the purpose of life. Because I can not give a meaning to the existence of mankind I therefore settled with the religious concept that those who live are living for God and when they die the die for God. It makes more sense because only God knows the reason of human existence or death. I will leave this part of discussion for our next publication. If man is living for God why then should he denote a bomb to kill others who are living for the same purpose (God)? Could man not have demanded for permission from the master God to kill other creatures? If God created man he must have invested some energy, time and money. The meaning of this is that man is God’s investment. The pursle then is why the omnipotent will allow people to waste his investment or better still his creature? I find answer in the fact that there will be judgement on the last day. Where and how does man connect, relate or interact with God? The answer is religion and we know that no religion preaches violence. If religions do not preach violence and man do not seek permission from the creator God before denoting bomb, we can conclude at this juncture that no body kills in the name of God. Looks strange but I want to believe that, no body kills in the name of God.

The complicity is the complex nature of man. Man is egoistic, self centred, proud, jealous, avarice, greedy, we can go on and on. Pope John Paul was not killed because he was a catholic pope but because he meddled with communism in the eastern bloc. My idol Mahatma Ghandi was not killed because he was a Buddhist but because of his position on Kashmir and the crisis between India and Pakistan. Kwame Nkuruma was not killed because he was president of Ghana but because of his position on the African continent, the same goes for Patrick Lumumba, Sankara, Debius, Luther King, Malcolm, and the two Kennedys etc. For various reasons these men paid the maximum price for there conviction. The stepped on powerful toes and paid for it. The altered powerful interest groups and heaven fell. Until the intervention of the Americans in Iraq there was no terrorist. The same goes for Afghanistan. Pakistan is still a sorry tale of fanatics, all in the name of power.

In the beginning there was nothing like terrorism. It all started during the Iraq and Iran war. The Iran gate scandal is still fresh in our memory. Officially America supported Iraq through the United Nations. There was an embargo then against Iran. Therefore no body was allowed to sell ammunitions to Iran even through a second party. But America had to find a way to fuel the war so it can go on or probably maintain the American interest. The American interest then was the release of the American soldiers held in Lebanon. At that point war was going on in Nicaragua and America was supporting Daniel Ortega the anti Marxist contra against the communist regime. Colonel Oliver North was commission by the white house to use the gains made from the ammunition sold to Iran to supply ammunition to Ortega. They called it Bolland agreement. At the end America was selling ammunition to both Iraq and Iran and that is the Iran gate scandal of the Regan administration. At the end Regan was absolved of any blame and complicity of what happened during his regime, presumably he was not in charge. The war continued but at a point something happened.

Iran was at the point of loosing the battle and the fundamentalist had to do something new. The started convincing their followers that if they die propagating Islam there are twenty one virgins waiting for them in paradise. That was how it all started. So people accepted to blow up their 6 yrs old children because they are going strait to heaven. And when these children blew up, their families will organize parties. The families of the first terrorists in Palestine were paid huge amount of money. Although, Israel may have a genuine cause and argument of sovereignty, their nation was created by a United Nations charter after the Second World War. Before the proclamation of the Security Council the Palestines were there. Therefore terrorism is for Islam but not for Islam. This is because terrorism started for the propagation of Islam but in the true sense they were not propagating Islam but working for their pay masters.

In the beginning Osama told all that cared to know that Americans were defiling Saudi Arabia but when he blew up the twin towers it became clear that the battle is for power and domination and not for Islam or God. Or one will ask what is the relationship between blowing the twin towers and defiling the Saudis. No individual is authorised to trade on ammunition. Even when you buy a military aircraft, ammunition can only be negotiated between governments. The manufactures of ammunition are not common neither can one buy the ammunition at the way side or supermarket. Ammunition can only be traded by the rich and powerful through government and every government knows who are the rich and powerful. They are easily traceable. The fact that all the rich and powerful do not trade on ammunition reduces the number of suspects. The problem is not those that blow up themselves but those that send them. The government should stop this parading of a few people in TV to confuse Nigerians. The problem is too serious to engage in propaganda. The sent could be many but the senders are few. Therefore any serious and determined government can trace them.

Goodluck should know that those throwing bombs in Nigeria are not Boko Harams but his political enemies. It does not take a genius to understand this. With all the information and intelligence available to him he should no who they are. The blood is meant for cleansing and sanctification but whose blood? Must it be the blood of the poor and helpless that has no stake in the crisis. The poor and innocent have sacrificed enough and Nigerians can not afford further blood shed. If they must continue to shed blood let them try the blood of the rich and powerful. Shakespeare said that, “when the poor die nothing is heard but heavens themselves announce forth the death of a prince”. Mr President therefore should intervene and save further bloodletting. It’s a task that must be done.

We must accept that the problem in Nigeria is political and economical and not religious. In the beginning Nigerians were neither Muslims nor Christians. Usman Dan Fodio came through the north and forced them to accept Islam while the Europeans came through the south and forced the southerners to accept Christianity. We must not loose sense of history. Going further religion is the consequences of the circumstances of our birth. If you were born in the north the tendency is that you will become a Muslim and if you were born in the south you will become a Christian. Most Christians were Christians because they were born into Christian families while most Muslims were Muslims because of where they were born. If you are born in Rome possibly you will become a catholic, those who were born in United Kingdom are Protestants while those born in the Middle East are Muslims. Americans are predominantly Pentecostals. Moslems are waiting for Isa on the last day while Christians are waiting for Jesus. Moslems worship Allah while Christians worship God. God and Allah are the same as well as Isa and Jesus (the messiah). Isaac was born by Abraham as well as Ishmael. So Isaac and Ishmael were brothers although it will be difficult for man to determine who is heir to the throne. Ishmael was born before Isaac but Isaac was born to the legitimate wife. Isaac gave root to Christian while Ishmael is the father of Islam. Muslims are working to go to paradise as well as Christians. Therefore Islam, Christian and other religions are simply different routes leading to the same destination. I have no problem that people take different roads to arrive at the same destination. That is my position.

Good time

Paul